Countless books have been written on etiquette, and a great deal of instruction has been given to individuals who are determined to excel in the social graces. Good manners enable us to interact with others diplomatically, avoiding conflict and accomplishing difficult tasks.  Because social norms are culturally influenced, what is acceptable in one culture might not work elsewhere.  In such case, while intending to honor others, our actions might cause humiliation.

This is not true, however, with the etiquette that emanates from the Word of God.  The behavioral practices that are derived from the Bible never cease to fulfill the needs of diverse cultures throughout the world because they are intended for us all.  One such lesson comes from Luke 14:8-10 (NIV) regarding how to conduct ourselves as guests.

“When someone invites you to a wedding feast, do not take the place of honor, for a person more distinguished than you may have been invited.  If so, the host who invited both of you will come and say to you, ‘Give this man your seat.’  Then, humiliated, you will have to take the least important place.  But when you are invited, take the lowest place, so that when your host comes, he will say to you, ‘Friend, move up to a better place.’ Then you will be honored in the presence of all your fellow guests.

Regardless of our many differences, we all need to walk as Jesus walked: In humility (Philippians 2:1-11), and in doing so, our attitude should resemble that of Christ.  We are to be imitators of Christ, and as He honored God in all that He did, so should we.

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Attending to the needs of others as well as our own is a beautiful way of loving our neighbors as ourselves.    However, during such times, we can become sidetracked by other responsibilities and desires.  But, as we continue to trust in the Lord to take charge of our lives, we can stay focused on the task at hand and honor God. 

When we are self centered, we block the blessings that could have flowed through us. Not only do our actions affect us, but they affect others as well whether or not we are able to see our connectedness.  

Sometimes, there are personality conflicts among Christians who labor together (Philippians 4:2-3).  Such disagreements can hinder us from accomplishing our unified goal. However, when we submit to the work of Christ in our lives and settle our differences, we honor Him.  This same attitude of humility can improve our relations with persons outside the body of Christ.  When we trust God to work in every area of our lives, we honor Him.  As ambassadors of Christ, our actions should give Him pleasure. 

In traffic jams, there is a great deal of anxiety, particularly when we are running late. Phil. 4:6 (NIV) tells us to be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God.

As members of the Body of Christ, we need to guard our thoughts and bless others rather than treating them unkindly when we are annoyed. Nothing that we do is done in secret, and sooner or later, we will be required to take responsibility for our actions.  Therefore, during times of frustration, remember 1 Peter 5:7 (NIV) which states, cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you. Then, thank God for all that He has already done in your life. Acknowledging God in all that we do honors Him. 

Wherever we are, our thoughts and actions should be wholesome; In order to stay on track, we need to seek the Lord throughout the day and keep our mind focused on the things of God.

Written by Gloria Ayot-Cross, Ph.D.          July 2008  

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